Relentless: From Good to Great to Unstoppable (Tim Grover Winning Series)

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Grover explains that fear of failure also makes the Good freeze up under pressure. Pressure causes the Good to focus on the possibility of failure instead of on what they’re trying to accomplish—in other words, they’ll freeze up because they overthink what they’re doing.

A great leader knows the best way to get people to raise their performance is to put them where the can truly excel. Are you willing to base your decisions and actions on research done by and about people you don’t know, whose best advice is to tell you to change? Who knows you better than you know yourself? Oprah once said, “Every right decision I’ve ever made has come from my gut, and every wrong decision I’ve ever made was a result of me not listening.” Exactly. Of course, she also spent twenty-five years doing a show for people who preferred listening to her instead of listening to their own gut, as she told them whom they should believe and what they should do and how they should change. Every day, millions of people showed up to hear someone tell them what they were doing wrong, so they could receive instructions on how to live according to someone else’s standards. I wonder if any of those people came away understanding this: In other words, you put more pressure on yourself than anyone could possibly attempt. Others CANNOT get to you!Never feel external pressure. Believe what's inside of you. Know what you are doing right and doing wrong. Don't care what others think. The need to succeed: constantly pushing yourself as hard as you can to succeed by any means necessary Do the work before you need it, so that you know what you’re capable of doing when everyone else hits that panic button and looks at you.” Being relentless means never being satisfied. It means creating new goals every time you reach your personal best. If you’re good, it means you don’t stop until you’re great. If you’re great, it means you fight until you’re unstoppable. It means becoming a Cleaner.

In the book Relentless, Tim Grover explains the qualities you’ll need to become the best in your field—qualities that he collectively calls “relentlessness.” In this guide, we’ll first define relentlessness. Then, we’ll explore the two main qualities Grover argues are essential to relentlessness: When you never have to take on anything harder than your daily routine, why would anything change? If you do the same thing over and over and over again, why should anything change? By definition, when you do the same thing over and over again… it stays the same. With options, people usually choose the easier route. So I'm not giving you options. Let me do the thinking for the both of us.Show up. Work hard. Listen. Your job is to do the work. Chapter 14: When You're a Cleaner...You don't recognize failure; you know there's more than one way to get what you want.

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Shortform note: Psychological research agrees with Grover’s argument that using stress as a tool helps you succeed, and suggests that, beyond helping you avoid fear of failure, it also benefits your mental and physical health. One study found that those who think of stress as a positive and motivating force focused less on negative emotions and had less cardiovascular stress.) How to Productively Pressure Yourself If you were to place a camera on Röhl for the entire game it would have certainly made an entertaining watch. In his first taste of a home matchday, he was a bundle of energy. He was consistently bellowing out advice to his players, issuing instructions and pacing up and down the touchline.

You already have plenty of friends. What you and I do is professional. If we become friends, that's great. But I care more about your career and future. Shortform note: Grover’s recommendation here seems to argue in favor of isolation, saying that spending too much time developing relationships impedes success. However, studies contrast with Grover by suggesting isolation negatively impacts mental and physical health, which could prevent success by damaging your motivation or your performance in your field.) Method #2: Accept Discomfort Relentless defines a mental framework that author Tim Grover claims you’ll need to become the best in your field or discipline—a framework he calls relentlessness. This framework involves committing everything you have to overcoming obstacles and finding success. Using any means necessary to succeed in your field requires you to make sacrifices in everything else you do. Grover insists that you can only be Unstoppable at one thing and that you’ll have to spend less time and energy on everything else. If you split time and energy between multiple disciplines, then you aren’t giving everything you have to any of them and therefore aren’t pursuing success relentlessly.UPDATE 2022: So, it turns out I have ADHD. And I've realized reading books like this in the past really damaged my self esteem. The entire concept of "just work harder, no matter what, and if you haven't achieved your goals you just weren't willing to do the work" that I lived by for a couple of years is really toxic advice. I wouldn't recommend this philosophy for anyone, but especially not nuerodivergent folks who have a hard time with executive function. This book is ableist and sexist. Leaving my original review up basically to show the evolution of my thought process and how my views have changed on this topic. Grover explains that anyone can be relentless in pursuing any task or discipline—relationships, your job, an art form, and so on. This is because relentlessness isn’t about what you do, but about how you approach what you do. In addition, he says that anyone can be relentless because relentlessness is natural and instinctual. All animals, even humans, are born with an instinctual drive to overcome obstacles and survive—in other words, we’re born relentless. Fore more than two decades, legendary trainer Tim Grover has taken the greats—Michael Jordan, Kobe Bryant, Dwayne Wade, and dozens more—and made them greater. Now, for the first time ever, he reveals what it takes to get those results, showing you how to be relentless and achieve whatever you desire. In this section, we’ll examine three areas Grover says to direct your instincts—knowledge, emotions, and your primal self as well as how doing so will help you become Unstoppable. Instinctively Using Knowledge This book was a mission to try to finish. I only made it half way through before throwing in the towel.